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December 26, 2009 by
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Author: Ev Nucci
“Humankind cannot bear much reality.” T. S. Eliot
No matter how bad things are, like millions before you, you can create a new future. I have, so I know what I’m talking about. You find out who people are in the bad times, not in the good.
Re-writing your future is a state of mind
You are never too old , it’s never too late to start anew. And if you think you can’t take steps backwards in order to take steps forward, think again.
Danny Aiello began acting at 40, Rodney Dangerfield at 42, Gloria Stuart was 78 when she was nominated Best Supporting Actress for Titanic, Peggy Ashcroft was 77 when she won Best Supporting Actress, and Jessica Tandy won an Academy Award at 80 for Driving Miss Daisy.
Grandma Moses (one of the most important self-taught artists of the 20th century) started her painting career in her seventies and Bill Traylor started drawing at age 83. In business Irene Wells Pennington became known in her nineties when she straightened out her husband’s oil business, Colonel Sanders started Kentucky Fried Chicken in his sixties and Taikichiro Mori founded his business in his 50s and is the richest man in the world.
So you think you’re too old to start anew? I think not!
1. Failure is part of success. Don’t avoid it. You need to fail in order to succeed. Every failure is one step closer to success. If failing is a problem for you, then change your mindset. The one percent fail- up and perceive failure as learning opportunities. Without learning opportunities, or practice, how can you get better? Many people are so afraid of failing that they spend their lives avoiding their gifts; or worse, they failed a coupled times and gave up because of it. For years I gave numerous speeches that went well. Then I gave one speech that bombed and it was so humiliating I froze, months later I had a meeting that didn’t go very well. Those two experiences sent me to Toastmasters where I learned how to give a speech.
2. Become extraordinary. Do what you say you’re going to do. Accept responsibility and criticism. Being extraordinary takes work. Go the extra mile. Go above and beyond. Do what the normal person won’t do…be the extreme! And learn what extraordinary people do, study them, learn from them. While at Toastmasters, I learned I had an issue with criticism and had to learn how to accept criticism, to thank the person sharing it with me and to understand that it wasn’t personal. This was an issue I had to learn how to deal with from a professional coach. So the point is that I went from one problem and solved it, to discovering another problem and solved it to back to the original problem. That is what extraordinary people do–they don’t give up. Ever. And when people tell them they can’t achieve something, they think to themselves, “watch this!” Extraordinary people never stop learning, and it’s not about how many letters you have after your name, or what you school you went to, it’s about continuous learning–and knowing that the more you know, the more you don’t know.
Be extraordinary, handle criticism with grace and dignity.
3. Study your successes Take out a yellow pad of paper. Write down your successes. What were you doing? What value did you bring? What are you really good at? What does everyone say you are great at? What’s staring you in the face? What is your gift? What and where have you repeatedly succeeded? Where is there a cross between extreme anger and happiness? That is passion.
4. Study your failures The one percent fail- up. Failures are learning opportunities. Without learning opportunities, you can’t get better. What have you learned? What patterns emerge? What did you do that could have done better? Use this time as a time to evaluate and learn. I have learned the most in my life from my failures—not from my successes. In the next post we’ll address structured achievement relative to goals that will address setting a weekly fear/dream goal.
5. Happiness is not the key to success. It is a choice. Money does not make you happy. I know people that have jobs they hate because of the money they make, relatives that are wealthy, miserable and alone. Money doesn’t fill your home with laughter and love. Money is nothing more than a by-product of your job. Success is a choice. Happiness is a choice. You choose to do the job your were hired to do and choose when and how to leverage that job into another. Life is a series of choices.
6. Trust yourself. Watch for the yellow lights or listen for the voice inside. If something doesn’t feel right, it isn’t. I call it, “validate and verify.” Check out what it is that your voice is telling you. Don’t rush. What is that yellow light? Generally, I count how many yellow lights I see in a situation and if I count more than three, it turns to a red light and I don’t move forward. It signals the requirement to have a conversation, and flags that something isn’t right. Every time I didn’t trust myself or ignored the yellow lights—mistakes were made.
7. What miracles have you created in your life? Go to a quiet place and on a yellow pad of paper, write out every miracle you have accomplished in your life. Everything you achieved or created that you never expected to and is a miracle in your mind. List every one. On an index card write down the ten that are mind blowing to you. You simply cannot believe you ever achieved that goal. This is only for you, it doesn’t matter how big or small it is. This is your Miracles card. I put myself through college; it’s a miracle I went and graduated. That is one of about 50 on my yellow pad. Save the back of the index card for the next assignment which is in the next post. Until then, when you get a little depressed one of the things you will do is look at your Miracles card and remind yourself that nothing is impossible.
8. Have the courage to self-reflect. It’s takes courage to reflect on your dreams, vision of how you want your life to be, who you want to be, how it is currently structured. The reality is that we structure our lives around other people’s constraints. Our dreams and our visions are bigger than the constraints around us. If those constraints are too much, you must be willing to ask yourself some dangerous questions.
Take an honest look at your own life. How much is your life in alignment with how you are spending your time and energy? You have to take responsibility to thrive and flourish wherever you are. Think of yourself as a social architect, you create the rules of the game. Whoever has the goal, makes the rules. You may decide that you need to change some of the dynamics in your life in order to get yourself to the next level. You may have to change some of the players and your environment. Have the courage to look at your life and make those decisions.
About the Author:
Ev Nucci is CEO of Nucci Consulting Group, a retained search firm that specializes in the asset management industry. She spent the last three decades building high performance organizations. She started 5 companies, worked as an executive for Johnson & Johnson where she was part of starting two divisions, then ran 15 operating companies, did a start-up for Baxter, started her own company which she grew to to be an industry leader and she sold five years later to the industry giant. In 1996, she founded NCG and leveraged her talent for building high growth organizations to Wall Street. In 1998, she started working with a small fixed income firm, by the name of BlackRock and spent the next ten years working with founders and they have grown into the largest asset management firm in the world. Most recently she served as a consultant and Director for Armored Wolf, LLC a global macro hedge fund. She has interviewed over 15,000 people over the last three decades.
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